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Stress Management: Anxiety and Hyperhidrosis

April 28, 2011 1 comment



I feel upset whenever I visit other HH forums where sufferers feel more devastated from what cancer or AIDs or palsy, etc. patients are experiencing.

I would like everybody to know that I am embracing all my fellow HH friends because I myself has a palmo-plantar hyperhidrosis and I fully understand how they feel. But as I gain more understanding about this condition,  I tried to distinguish those things which I can control or change from those I cannot. From this stemmed out acceptance for the things we simply cannot control. This I believe is the better attitude to view hyperhidrosis in the right perspective.

Hyperhidrosis is a physical system DISORDER, anxiety (primarily fear of rejection) associated with hyperhidrosis is a psychological STATE. The two are different, entirely separate. Anxiety is considered to be a reaction to a stressor. That means anxiety is related to hyperhidrosis as a situation perceived as uncontrollable or unavoidable. Anxiety is related to excessive sweating but not its origin or cause. Sweating seems uncontrollable while anxiety has a chance to be controlled. Getting psychological assessment or taking stress management and enlightenment course (such as this forum) will alleviate the anxiety. [This forms a part of sticky homepage as a reminder.]

Anticipation and continuous claim of unwanted circumstances will indeed result to negative feeling and condition. Let us be reminded that what we attract will be our experience. It’s all the state of mind..

An Appeal to Our Fellow ETS Side Effects Sufferers

April 25, 2011 2 comments


“This friendship site is for all HH individuals whether with ETS or not, no exception. This weblog has no intention whatsoever to impose guilt on the side effects brought by ETS surgery. In fact, we are here to embrace you; we are all struggling in the same HH boat, no exception. We are all affected at different levels, and devastated at varying degrees. Yet I am pretty sure we are all struggling for one big desire: freedom from suffering.

In the eyes of our Creator, we are created equal. Each one of us, whatever the circumstances is, balances the entire wonderful force of life. We are all one with our Creator, we are not separate, and there is a reason. That is why I learned to accept that despite this condition, there lies the beauty in it.. I learned and accepted that we came forth with this condition as an advocate of unconditional love. That is, to accept and love us just the way we are..

This is the time of awakening and enlightenment. Let us come into a realization that we are all precious despite this condition; that freedom and wholeness really abounds; that we really have something to contribute to this force of life, just like the mystery of autistic and with cerebral palsy..

Let us get awaken to the acceptance of our Creator…”


On Happiness

April 23, 2011 Leave a comment


We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life”. This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, reassure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time.. and remember that time waits for no one..

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you lose ten pounds, until you have kids, until you start work, until you get married, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until your car or home is paid off, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy..

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.


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I Believe

April 18, 2011 Leave a comment


I believe-
That we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I believe-
That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and, you must forgive them for that.

I believe-
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I believe-
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I believe-
That it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I believe-
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I believe-
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I believe-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I believe-
That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I believe-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I believe-
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I believe-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time!

I believe-
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I believe-
That sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I believe-
That just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I believe-
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I believe-
That it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I believe-
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I believe-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I believe-
That just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other,  And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I believe-
That you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I believe-
That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I believe-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

I believe-
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you – you will find the strength to help.

I believe-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I believe-
That the people you care about most in life are the essence of life.
Tell them today how much you love them and what they mean to you.


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Desiderata

April 16, 2011 Leave a comment


Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, Be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others – Even the dull and ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons – they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, For always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career – However humble, it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is. Many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection, neither be cynical about love. For in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, It is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the council of the years, Gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune, But do not distress yourself with imaginings – Many fears are borne of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe. No less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, Keep peace with your soul. With all it’s sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann – 1906

A Child’s Words

April 16, 2011 Leave a comment


She had been shopping with her Mom in Wal-Mart. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red-haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all stood there under the awning and just inside the door of the Wal-Mart. We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day. I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I get lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world.

Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child come pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day. Her voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in. “Mom, let’s run through the rain,” she said. What?” Mom asked. “Let’s run through the rain!” She repeated. “No, honey. We’ll wait until it slows down a bit,” Mom replied. This young child waited about another minute and repeated: “Mom, let’s run through the rain.” “We’ll get soaked if we do,” Mom said.

“No, we won’t, Mom. That’s not what you said this morning,” the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom’s arm. “This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?” “Don’t you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, ‘If God can get us through this, he can get us through anything!'” The entire crowd stopped dead silent. I swear you couldn’t hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one came or left in the next few minutes.

Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say. Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child’s life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith. “Honey, you are absolutely right. Let’s run through the rain. If God let’s us get wet, well maybe we just needed washing,” Mom said. Then off they ran.

We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and yes, through the puddles. They held their shopping bags over their heads just in case. They got soaked. But they were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars. And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.

Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories. So, don’t forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories every day!

To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven. A friend sent this to me to remind me of life, hope you enjoy it. I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.

Keep in touch with your family and friends; you never know when you’ll need each other.

 – Fr. Gilles

Its Time to Group

April 10, 2011 Leave a comment

here is a reply which i wrote to a leading HH forum:

to Beverly,

here i am now, apart from our personal messaging.. :-) 

the last two replies are almost a year apart, and i am cheerful to find that i am following the one from yesterday.

quoting on the subject of this topic, i think emailing to US tv doctors is really not enough. there must be planning, organizing and action on a higher level. and as ‘dotolo’ mentioned, there are considerations that must be resolved along with this.

my suggestion:

1/ human nature respond to tangible entity. there must be a PHYSICAL group/organization of HH individuals, not only in chatrooms or forum. i know there is AA (alcoholics anonymous), autism centres, etc. there must be similar tangible HH groups.

there must be a way of PHYSICALLY grouping HH individuals. with internet as our tool, we can contact and coordinate our fellow to form HH group specific to our location. for example, there must be a physical HH organization in US (much better per states), in UK, Singapore, Indonesia, etc. That is why i tried to create a location-specific HH weblog; not just because for relief (there is such a great relief knowing you have a fellow HH in your same backyard), but also to make us more a reality and extended even to non-HH individuals.

2/ with a concrete HH group, we can surely coordinate with reputed surgeons/researchers to support our plight.

3/ with doctors on our side, we can now appeal to higher media.

we can now follow-up our appeal to Oprah, after exposure to Oprah then probably a documentary for BBC or CNN. then we can get the attention and action of WHO. then we can get the support of private firms to produce HH documentary film.

“think big, and your deeds will glow. think small, and you will fall behind. think that you can, and you will. it is all the state of mind.” (pravsworld)

give my regards to fearless Anne (saw your youtube and you are awesome). :-)

knowell

p.s. just like our favorite sci-fi characters X-MEN, we simply have to band together for strength..

 

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