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Spot a Liar in 20 Seconds

December 14, 2011 Leave a comment


According to this new study from the University of California, Berkeley, all it takes is 20 seconds to decide whether or not a stranger is trustworthy.

They even test its connection to our gene receptor.

These signs include:

  1. Inconsistent behavior
  2. A steady gaze
  3. Not enough mouth
  4. A quick smile

So the next time somebody praises you, these are the indicators.

How to spot a liar in 20 seconds flat.



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Sucker Punch – Closing Remarks

August 1, 2011 Leave a comment




The film ends with Sweet Pea rescued by the bus driver (revealed to be the Wise Man from Babydoll’s fantasies) when the police tried to stopped her while in line to board a bus to Fort Wayne. Before the screen goes black, Sweet Pea uttered in the background:

and finally, these questions: the mystery of whose story it will be.. of who draws the curtain.. who is it that chooses our steps in the dance.. who drives us mad.. lashes us with whips and crowns us with victory when we survived the impossible.. who is it.. that does all these things..
who honors those we love with the very life we live.. who sends monsters to kill us.. and at the same time sings that we will never die.. who teaches us what is real and how to laugh at lies.. who decides why we live and what we will die to defend.. who chains us.. and who holds the key that can set us free.. IT IS YOU.
you have all the weapons you need.. Now Fight.



True indeed.

Stress Management: Anxiety and Hyperhidrosis

April 28, 2011 1 comment



I feel upset whenever I visit other HH forums where sufferers feel more devastated from what cancer or AIDs or palsy, etc. patients are experiencing.

I would like everybody to know that I am embracing all my fellow HH friends because I myself has a palmo-plantar hyperhidrosis and I fully understand how they feel. But as I gain more understanding about this condition,  I tried to distinguish those things which I can control or change from those I cannot. From this stemmed out acceptance for the things we simply cannot control. This I believe is the better attitude to view hyperhidrosis in the right perspective.

Hyperhidrosis is a physical system DISORDER, anxiety (primarily fear of rejection) associated with hyperhidrosis is a psychological STATE. The two are different, entirely separate. Anxiety is considered to be a reaction to a stressor. That means anxiety is related to hyperhidrosis as a situation perceived as uncontrollable or unavoidable. Anxiety is related to excessive sweating but not its origin or cause. Sweating seems uncontrollable while anxiety has a chance to be controlled. Getting psychological assessment or taking stress management and enlightenment course (such as this forum) will alleviate the anxiety. [This forms a part of sticky homepage as a reminder.]

Anticipation and continuous claim of unwanted circumstances will indeed result to negative feeling and condition. Let us be reminded that what we attract will be our experience. It’s all the state of mind..

Desiderata

April 16, 2011 Leave a comment


Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, Be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others – Even the dull and ignorant, they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons – they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter, For always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career – However humble, it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is. Many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection, neither be cynical about love. For in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, It is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the council of the years, Gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune, But do not distress yourself with imaginings – Many fears are borne of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe. No less than the trees and the stars, you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore, be at peace with God, whatever you conceive him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, Keep peace with your soul. With all it’s sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann – 1906

Its Time to Group

April 10, 2011 Leave a comment

here is a reply which i wrote to a leading HH forum:

to Beverly,

here i am now, apart from our personal messaging.. :-) 

the last two replies are almost a year apart, and i am cheerful to find that i am following the one from yesterday.

quoting on the subject of this topic, i think emailing to US tv doctors is really not enough. there must be planning, organizing and action on a higher level. and as ‘dotolo’ mentioned, there are considerations that must be resolved along with this.

my suggestion:

1/ human nature respond to tangible entity. there must be a PHYSICAL group/organization of HH individuals, not only in chatrooms or forum. i know there is AA (alcoholics anonymous), autism centres, etc. there must be similar tangible HH groups.

there must be a way of PHYSICALLY grouping HH individuals. with internet as our tool, we can contact and coordinate our fellow to form HH group specific to our location. for example, there must be a physical HH organization in US (much better per states), in UK, Singapore, Indonesia, etc. That is why i tried to create a location-specific HH weblog; not just because for relief (there is such a great relief knowing you have a fellow HH in your same backyard), but also to make us more a reality and extended even to non-HH individuals.

2/ with a concrete HH group, we can surely coordinate with reputed surgeons/researchers to support our plight.

3/ with doctors on our side, we can now appeal to higher media.

we can now follow-up our appeal to Oprah, after exposure to Oprah then probably a documentary for BBC or CNN. then we can get the attention and action of WHO. then we can get the support of private firms to produce HH documentary film.

“think big, and your deeds will glow. think small, and you will fall behind. think that you can, and you will. it is all the state of mind.” (pravsworld)

give my regards to fearless Anne (saw your youtube and you are awesome). :-)

knowell

p.s. just like our favorite sci-fi characters X-MEN, we simply have to band together for strength..

 

http://verysweatybetty.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=13&t=853&start=10

Tips for Peace of Mind

March 23, 2011 Leave a comment

 

And here is another tips for gaining peace of mind. In this stressful world and for all of you worrying about your condition, these principles are indeed applicable and precious to us.

10 Principles for Peace of Mind


1. Do Not Interfere In Others’ Business Unless Asked:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours if in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God’s name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering ” Should I or shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over split milk?

(source: Pravsworld)

Ten Tips to Success

March 23, 2011 1 comment

 

Here are tips to  success. See which areas you are weak and start applying it:

10 Steps To Success


1. Self-Belief: Success begins in the mind. One has to be a believer first. If one wishes to be an achiever, never underestimate yourself. You have no idea how often can you surprise yourself. So to begin with, let’s get in the belief, “I can”.

2. Clarity of Vision: There is no point running without knowing where one wants to reach. You must get your job cut out. Greatest achievers in the world have been visionaries. Know exactly what you are best at and give it your best shot.

3. Setting the Right Goals: The goals should be realistic. The goals should be achievable, and yet challenging enough – neither too easy nor too difficult – something in the middle.

4. Be Focused: If the sun’s ray are focused on a piece of paper with a lens, the intensity of the concentrated energy burns the paper. Focus on your objective will enhance the intensity of the effects of your efforts.

5. No Shortcuts to Success: There are no shortcuts to success. Divide your overall goals into smaller targets. Divide your monthly plans into weekly and weekly plans into daily plans and see how simple can things be.

6. Take Risks: Without any risk no progress is possible. Life comes to a stable standstill. People who take chances are the people who get ahead in life. The only way to reduce risk is to take risks.

7. Take the Initiative: People who take the initiative make the most of their lives. Proactive people do not wait for success to happen; rather they make it happen. As they say, “JUST DO IT”.

8. Never Hesitate to Struggle: No one has ever climbed a mountain just by looking at it. Struggle, hard struggle, is the key to success.

9. Own Responsibility: Failure to hit the bull’s eye is never the fault of the target. People, who own complete responsibility of their lives, are the people who make the most of it.

10. Never Give Up: Many people who failed in life, where those who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Success demands extraordinary amount of  perseverance. Never, never, give up.

(source: Pravsworld)